In the Dance of Pleasure... Keep the Rhythm!
Premature ejaculation?
The man takes a long time to orgasm?
No erection?
Here are a few classical and uncommon solutions to handle these tricky situations.
It’s amazing how different women are!!! Some of us are unhappy when the man ejaculates too fast and everything comes to an end. And some complain about feeling exhausted by long marathons that take hours and would rather have a short-distance run…
However, there is no reason for being distressed in either case; everything can be fixed if You master a few simple techniques. Here they are.
Holding off ejaculation
1. Ejaculation is controlled by ... the woman!!! If You are too excited, the man will climax soon after penetration. Try to relax Your vagina instead of contracting it and invite the man to enter, when both of You are just warming up.
Don’t do quick movements, let the first penetration be slow, with deep breathing; You can look each other in the eyes to avoid escaping into arousing fantasies and stay in the present.
The man enters and doesn’t move any more, just feels himself inside. The more You relax, the longer sex will last. And suggest that the man focuses on his penis, not on the vagina, when he enters, otherwise he will get too excited. So Your task is to keep the man in the present and be totally relaxed without thinking about arousal.
2. Choose the position when the man lies down – blood flows away from the head and he can make love longer.
3. When a man is about to come, his testicles rise. Pulling down on them (encircling the scrotum above the testicles with Your fingers), You will hold back ejaculation.
4. If the man can’t bear the thought of prostate massage – just pressing the anus with Your finger will hold back ejaculation for long (if he enjoys it – the effect is reverse).
5. Movements during caresses from the head to the base of the penis and from the penis all over the body. We direct the energy away from the volcanic pipe.
6. When it comes to sex aids, You can use special lubricant which reduces the sensitivity of the penis, or erection rings – the blood flows to the penis but cannot flow back, the penis is erect, but the man cannot come.
7. You can suggest that the man takes a deep breath before orgasm and holds the breath – the energy will go up, and from there, along with the exhalation – all over the body and instead of exploding in orgasm will spread in a pleasant warmth all around the man’ body.
8. And for the brave!!! When You feel that the man is reaching orgasm, give him a slight but still felt flick on his testicles – taken by surprise, he will stop and return to the present moment from his fantasies.
Speeding up ejaculation
1. Try this on Your own: lie down on Your back with Your legs bent, pinch Your nose, exhale completely, close Your mouth and take a deep… "false" breath. It creates a vacuum inside You, which will raise Your diaphragm (Your ribs will rise like those of a skeleton). Like a forcer the diaphragm will raise the organs of the small pelvis, and at the same time… suck in a lot of energy!
And if at that moment the man’s penis is inside You, it will be as if You are sucking the water into a syringe – the diaphragm will start “drinking” the energy from the man’s penis, and he won’t be able to hold back even for a minute. You don’t have to pinch Your nose in front of the man, naturally. Don’t frighten him! When You’ve practised enough, You’ll be able to do it with a sweet and innocent smile!
2. Tune in to Your partner’s breathing and start little by little breathing deeper and faster. The man naturally will follow You and will orgasm faster from such breath.
3. Choose positions where the blood flows to the head of the penis - i. e. all the positions with the man on top and behind. And also the positions when the vagina becomes narrower and shorter – for example, lying on Your back: join Your legs and curl them up.
4. If the man fancies caresses of the prostate – start massaging the anus, entering inside.
5. Keep caressing from the periphery of the body to the penis and from the base of the penis to the head.
6. With a long-term partner You can anchor his orgasm in advance; for example, when he is orgasming, pull his nipples or whisper something into his ear or press a specific point, kiss him in a particular way – and do it a few times within a certain period of time. And later when You want the man to climax just repeat that action exactly the same way You did it before.
And finally…
What can You do if the penis doesn’t erect at all?
1. A lot of women fall into the mistake of trying to do something to the penis, helping with their hands or mouth. It makes things only worse.
Erection is the responsibility of… the Woman! Your state! Soft, appealing vagina can raise the penis even from a distance! So in this situation come back to… Yourself! Caress Your breasts, vagina, relax and watch the penis… rise!
2. You can give attention to the man, too, not to his penis, but to his whole body: massage the man, warm him up in Your hot embrace. When the man gets relaxed, You might tease him, massaging the penis with Your vagina, squeezing it between the lips but not letting it in, and again turn Your attention to the body, and pamper him with the vagina again – the result won’t be long.
3. The man is suppressed by the thought that erection is a must, and this tension leads up to no erection at all. And the erection… is not a must, really!!! Try to start sex by putting the soft penis into the vagina. It’s a real treat for every couple! The man doesn’t think about erection, and the woman has time to get aroused, all the problems are settled with one soft penetration!!!
It can be done very easily: a little lubrication, and You hold the penis with a "fork" formed with Your index and middle fingers under the head (putting the skin back) and near the bottom. Lie down in the scissors position, crossing Your legs with those of the partner, and centimeter by centimeter push the penis inside the vagina.
And when the man enters, don’t do any harsh movements, just breathe, feel each other and enjoy the magic communication of the penis and the vagina, which starts as a soft whisper, slight and flickering touch and grows into a passionate, voluptuous, intoxicating Dance of Love… Enjoy!
With Love, Your Maria Shitova
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