Doesn’t Call After Sex?
10 Secrets of an Awesome First Night
You never know how things will turn out…
Can You make a difference?
Sure You can. Here’re a few simple tips. The most important one comes first.
If You succeed in conveying to a man that he is the best – with You, he is a fantastic lover – with You, and he is the only one who can give You infinite bliss – that’s it.
You can relax! The man is forever Yours. So it’s no use learning millions of techniques to satisfy a man. That’s what prostitutes are for. Your purpose is to learn to experience pleasure Yourself and to manifest it in the right way.
An acquaintance of mine, a very nice woman, was anxious that men didn’t call her back after the first intercourse. “I try so hard, ? she kept complaining, ? there’s nothing I won’t do, including deep blow job in the morning…” “And do You enjoy it Yourself? – I ask her, – do You take pleasure, breathe, gaze into their eyes?” “No”, she says…
What did she give to them? What any expensive prostitute can give – techniques. But she didn’t give the most important thing – men didn’t feel like great lovers with her. I advised her during the first few dates just to enjoy herself and show it to the partner, and use only the techniques a man is requesting, without suggesting anything herself.
And that’s how things got going – men felt like great lovers with her, and technically wanted to try this and that with her – they got so immersed in it!!!
1. Have You ever noticed that when there is no attraction between people, they try to be clever, and when there’s a spark between them, they start talking about trivialities, but glow with joy?
Shortly before the first sex start lowering the degree of sobriety, making jokes about the man. You might pull a prank on him.
A woman, having decided to accept the courtship of an attractive and a very serious admirer, invited him to help her carry “a really heavy carpet”.
He arrived to find a small rug neatly tied with a ribbon on the kitchen chair. They have been married and laughing about that incident for over 20 years!
It helps to laugh before sex (however laughable that might be): it releases tension, relaxes the diaphragm, deepening the pleasure, bringing You together.
As if by chance put on Comedy club as a background or invite him to a performance by a well-known stand-up comedian (that’s what my first husband did).
2. Choose the most conservative location for Your first sex – the tumult of feelings is enough in itself. If the first sex happens in the car or on the beach – that’s a little over the top.
Leave it for the future to "freshen up" Your relationship. And while You are just getting to know each other – a bed, slippers, a shower.
3. It’s imperative to click with the man physically. Your body, not Your head, has to desire him. Before sex ask Yourself if You like his scent, his touch?
If he just approaches You without even having touched You yet, and You are already "off balance" – that’s it! That makes for marvelous sex. Select with Your eyes closed, following Your nose, Your bodily sensations, like a cat.
Everything else is just in Your head and won’t bring You any joy. The most pathetic love affair I’ve had was with a man whose scent repelled me. Luckily it had been a long time ago, in my Youth, and since then I’ve been wiser.
4. You need to feel desire primarily… for Yourself! So that You feel like kissing, squeezing and caressing Yourself! And remember that during sex the man will mostly touch and smell You.
That’s why You can put a tiny drop of perfume on the skin of Your head, on the delta and sacrum a few hours before sex. And if the day before You have a body scrub and wrap in a spa, You will definitely desire Yourself!!!
Go for single colored lingerie – red, white, or black. The man will eye it just for a few seconds, so leave halftones and elaborate lace for the future! Our striptease trainer used to teach us: smooth, clear and forget about lace!!!
5. It’s important to be well rested, to make Your body blossom! Take a cool shower before sex – the body will wake up immediately, give Yourself a little stretch – it will produce endorphin, the hormone of pleasure.
Have a glass of champagne to turn off control (but no more, otherwise Your body’s sensitivity will reduce and goodbye, pleasure!). Massage the sacrum area and feet until You feel heat. Dance while waiting for the man.
6. Take the responsibility for Your pleasure off the man’s shoulders. Sometimes a woman lies down, sending a silent message: “Let’s see what You will measure up to this time”, as if her man is taking an exam.
It’s not Your partner’s concern to wake Your body up. You are responsible for Your orgasms Yourself, although You let the man know it’s completely his doing.
During sex caress Yourself: Your nipples, Your clitoris. At least one orgasm is guaranteed. Men delight in watching women caress themselves.
But if You are disrupted by thoughts such as: “What if he thinks he’s no good and I’m doing his part?” I usually say: “I want myself so much, sorry, darling, I can’t help it!” and the man gets even more aroused.
7. Even during the first time You can teach him to do what You like. Sometimes women overdo it, faking moans to make their man feel better about himself.
Use moaning to encourage him when You really feel enjoyment. The closer he gets to the right spot, the more reaction. No enjoyment – lower the intensity. That’s how You can teach a man caress You without words.
8. When it comes to sex, forget about breathing through Your nose. Every sophisticated lover knows: to get back into Your body and out of Your head, You just need to open Your mouth and breathe through it.
Your man will have to deepen his breath, too – there is no way You can keep Your mouth shut when You’re with someone who’s breathing deeply.
Start breathing at the same pace with Your partner, keep on this way for some time, and then start breathing faster. The man, naturally, will follow You, seeing it as a tide of passion.
9. Envelop the man with the right kind of words. When he exhales (he will treat Your words as his own) first say simple words, such as "yes", "this way", "more, more", "good", and when the excitement goes up, whisper in his left ear: "so good being close", "so good together", "oh, how good".
The man will get used to Your having a great time with him and will long for You again and again. A woman used to tell her husband every day: “You’re so lucky to have me around!” she’s been married for 30 years, and her husband still dotes on her!!! Remember that words are magic, especially when said promptly and appropriately.
10. And once more about the essentials… Don’t use sex as a venue for psychological games with a man, trying to get something from him – tenderness, care, wedding or gifts…
Focus on Yourself more, on Your sensations; try to seize the sweetest sensations in Your body, intensify them and show them to the man bluntly. Don’t expect anything from the first sex, as if it’s Your last encounter with that man or as if there’s eternity ahead of You and nothing depends on this sex.
Just enjoy! Because Your face gleaming with happiness will be the biggest reward for the man! And not coming back won’t be an option for him!
With Love, Your Maria Shitova
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© 2012 Maria Sñhitova
