Interview on Femininity and... Seduction
- Hi Maria! What are your impressions of Omsk? How have Omsk women welcomed you?
- My impressions are wonderful. I liked both the city and women. I’ve noticed that in some cities women ask a lot of questions during trainings, while in others they listen quietly and ask no questions at all.
In Omsk I’ve seen the golden middle – women were listening very attentively, and then asked significant and thoughtful questions. I liked that. The audience is very grateful – it makes me want to share my knowledge again and again!
- What are your emotions after four days of non-stop work? (Trainings were held on 16-19 August).
- I’ve been working at this pace for quite long, so I’m good at restoring my energy. And my emotions are positive! By the way, I flew to Omsk straight from Switzerland, from the tantric group of Diana Richardson, so I shared this amazing energy generously with Omsk girls!
- For those who couldn’t come to the trainings, tell us what are the main secrets of seducing men?
- There’re plenty of secrets of seduction, but they all amount to nothing if a woman has not entered the right state. Men perceive the state, not the technique. What kind of a state am I talking about? It’s a state of a woman aroused. And all the seduction techniques just help to communicate it gracefully, but everything starts from the state.
How do you enter this state? You can’t do it through your head, but simply – through your body.
First, start breathing through your mouth – it will draw a lot of energy and
immediately bring you back into your body.
Second, start moving slightly, as if dancing.
Third – touch yourself, as if stroking. You can do it very delicately, and it will look naturally.
Fourth – slow down. If you want to add a note of sex – do everything slowly, take your time,
as if you don’t want to miss a second of pleasure, savouring the world around you.
And communicate to the man the sensation that you desire him but don’t want to show it outright. As if you take a step forward, and then two steps back, reach out to him – then get embarrassed by your own boldness and step back.
- How can you seduce a man just by looking at him?
- Seductive gazes vary a lot. For example, you can look a man straight into the eyes and tell to yourself distinctly: “You are mine”. That will set your unconscious for behaving as if this man is yours.
I really love the "magnetic" gaze: you are gazing into a man’s eyes for three seconds, then counting 4-5-6-7 start turning your head but keep your eyes "glued" to the man’s eyes. Like a huge fish, you hook the man with your tail.
Here it’s imperative to be relaxed and breathe, let yourself take all the time. And it’s important to give the man a few minutes to recover himself. After this gaze the man will definitely approach you. And if he doesn’t – he’s not the right kind of man for you!
- What matters when you attract a man, apart from exterior entourage? What’s the role of the voice, intonations, or gestures?
- The voice plays a major role. It has to create an illusion of a post-orgasmic woman – that is, a little lower than usual and husky. And keep in mind the importance of breathing – that’s our energy, and just by taking the right breath near the man you can include him into your space.
What do I mean by the right kind of breath? With your mouth open, hardly heard and deep. And in general, breathe, don’t freeze, when you are around men!
It’s very important to slow down, not to jabber. When a woman talks fast, the man wants to run away from her with the same speed. And when a woman slows down, it seems like she has already said everything, but the man is still around, waiting for something...
Gestures should be smooth, as if we’re penetrating through water. There should be a sensation as if we’ve just woken up, and a day-off full of pleasure and delight is ahead of us. Like a languid, lazy cat.
- How can women retrieve the ability to enjoy themselves, their bodies and give this pleasure to the man?
- To bring this ability back to a woman is to teach her feel her body first. Start with simple things? Give yourself a massage to pamper your body, and take the whole hour for a start, not just 5 minutes. Put on pleasant music, apply some aroma oil and take pleasure in kneading each bone, each muscle. If you know your body, you’ll be able to give pleasure to the man.
One of the best tantra teachers in the world Diana Richardson said at a training once: “I have a right to sit here in front of you, because I used to massage myself for hours, 5-6 hours”.
Second, to bring back the ability to enjoy herself is to teach her to breathe. To breathe through the mouth, deeply, listening to her breath. Every great lover knows – to get back into your body and out of your head you need to start breathing through your mouth.
Third, it’s important to teach the woman to relax, to relax her body, intimate muscles, belly, rather than being tense all the time, trying to push the belly in, tightening the intimate muscles, closing the mouth. True pleasure emerges out of relaxation.
And only when the woman can give pleasure to herself, when she knows her body, loves it literally, not just verbally, she will give her man bliss with ease. It will surround her and go over the rim.
- I’ve read that feminine clothing items (a dress, long skirts) have a positive impact on female energies. Is it true?
- Sure it is. The energy from the earth rises upwards freely. But I never talk women into wearing skirts, just suggest they breathe with the belly – and skirts appear spontaneously!
- How can you develop your feminine nature?
- The secret of femininity is very simple – try feeling your body. It’s feminine in itself, and it is just waiting for you to come back. And developing femininity is about making friends with your body more and more. It really appreciates attention and starts changing at any age when it gets love. The body knows no yesterday or tomorrow. Give it a treat today!
I wish you to fall in love with yourself and take good care of yourself, I wish you to become a skillful seductress and enjoy this game! And I heartily wish you true women’s happiness!
With Love, Your Maria Shitova
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